Relationships are all about bonding between two different persons. It involves the two coming together to share their feelings and emotions. Every relationship is a blessing, and there is always a need to be in one. Life without relationships may be considered as void, and this is so when the companionship that comes from relationships are lacking. Every working relationship was learned. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and a relationship can be near perfect only with time. Two people in a relationship must be willing to work hard and give in a lot sacrifice to make the relationship work.
A relationship may become difficult only if the people in it become difficult. Naturally, people react and may change due to a situation. Situations change people, and that must be put into consideration. We have to admit that not everyone is compatible by default. Some relationships might be destined to fail from the start; I would not want one to be superstitious, and I believe so because some things in life are just what they are.
Relationships start from an agreement between the people, and this agreement interprets that the people in it have a lot of efforts and commitments to make. A failing relationship is not just an event of mere chance, and it starts when both parties neglect their vows and make no efforts towards making amendments.
Here are some common relationship problems that people may encounter:
Partners spend more time apart than they do together
This is, in fact, the most encountered problem in a relationship. When lovers start to display attitudes like “I have had enough of you,” “I have a lot of work to do,” “I am very busy now,” “I have a meeting at work tomorrow morning,” and “I have to get a lot of rest,” all these are excuses to not spend time with each other. Couples define that both parties are one; they share common feelings, emotions, and time. Once the time factor is no longer there, that spells a problem in a relationship.
Partners fight repeatedly over the same issue
When partners continue to revisit the same conflicts or cause of discords, they are bound to end that relationship. There will be no moving forward between the two of them, and they will remain tied to the past. Revisiting issues in a relationship can be nerve-wracking and unproductive, regardless of the topic causing the discord. These problems may arise from just undone laundry, living costs, and unfriendly attitudes. A sign of problems like these in a relationship could drag it to an end.
One of them may feel insecure over their future together
This problem in a relationship may occur if both partners refuse to come to terms with each other over their decisions and aspirations. Your partner and yourself may want to take different paths in life, which you believe is the best for you.
Everyone, before getting into a relationship, has a plan for themselves, a goal to achieve, and a target to meet. But when in a relationship that involves two or more, these goals may not be achieved, as commitments set in.
Partners may begin to have some misunderstanding
Communication in a relationship is a two-way route; partners may get lost in limbo whenever they are in a conversation. This occurs if one of the partners has a personal issue to discuss, then all of a sudden, both of you get into an argument with each other. This reaction usually triggers detachment in the other, which then leaves you hopeless and defeated.
Partners may argue over money or money-related issues
A quarrel which is money-related usually goes wrong. If this repeatedly occurs in a relationship, there is a very big problem, and this problem may arise if one of the partners is not being financially supportive or is wasteful. This may lead to a serious discord or disagreement between the partners. Money-related issues in a relationship might end the relationship even sooner than expected.
Bad habits in the relationship
There is never any person who is happy with their partner’s indecent habits such as pilfering, drinking to stupor, smoking, telling lies, sleeping around, masturbating, and abuse of drugs. All this may spark up a toxic relationship between couples.
When partners deprive themselves of sex
In a relationship, sex is inevitable. When two people are in a relationship together, they are bound to share emotions, which includes sex. Sex is just like an agreement between couples that love still exists between them. But when the partners start to deprive themselves of this sex, there would be doubt whether intimacy still exists between them. Sometimes when partners over-demand for sex, their hormonal level may reduce rapidly. One of the partners may start having sex outside. This problem in a relationship is very detrimental.
Relationships do end for numerous reasons, and I can continue to list them on and on. However, if your partner decides to leave you because of the things you repeatedly do to push him/her away, then it is very important that you get ahold of yourself and change your actions immediately.
We all know the list is endless but we can get off the blocks using these easy tips to correct our relationship hassles:
1. Always listen to your partner and take the things your partner says seriously
In a relationship, people who do more talking than listening may end up ruining a cherished relationship. People who do that always try to prove they are more important than their counterpart is. If you are willing to save the failing relationship, you have opened up your consciousness completely to your partner. You have to open your heart completely. Your mate will feel important whenever he/she sees that you are giving full attention to what is being said. Try to make eye contact with them frequently and nod your head gently to what is being said, and this is a sign that you listened to him/her. You will have to avoid some words like no, yes, or but. These are terms of disagreement. When listening to your partner, you have to show some empathy.
2. You have to rebuild trust between the both of you
We have to understand that relationships are built on the foundation of trust. Whenever there is no trust in a relationship, love can never be found, and the relationship will continue to suffer.
To build trust between you and your partner, you will have to fix up the hurt you have caused by your actions. Your actions might have inflicted some psychological instability on your mate, this may leave him/her with trust issues, not even to only you, but to everybody they meet. For you to build solid trust from time to time, you have to admit your wrong deeds, accept you are responsible for your behavior, you have acknowledged the fact that your actions must have hurt your partner, learn to seek forgiveness when you have done wrong, and always learn to agree on changing your behavior pattern.
3. Spend more time with your partner
As they say, time heals. A failing relationship will require time to heal. You have to spend more time together with each other. Always feel every moment of each other’s company. As time goes on, the love between you and your partner will start to grow once again. While spending this time together, you have to make it productive by saying sweet words to each other, play with each other, you can even stroke each other gently. All these can bring back the old-time love again.
4. Focus on your partner’s needs, the ones you neglected
Negligence in a relationship is awful. Your mate may start to think he/she is being taken for granted. This in a relationship tends to communicate a negative sentiment. To save your relationship from failing, you have to focus and cherish the needs of your partner. When you focus on your partner’s needs with total interest, this will send a message that makes them feel they matter a lot to you. Doing this consistently may likely draw her attention towards you.
5. Do something special together
This last tip may be the most important of all. Doing something that means a lot to you and your partner might trigger the affections that both of you used to have. Probably, both of you first met at a restaurant. If you have not visited that restaurant for ages, take him/her there; this will trigger the old-time memories, and the memories can ignite passion. Otherwise, both of you can try something new. The excitement of a new adventure may trigger new hopes in your relationship. Make sure both of you reconnect together.